{"id":1378,"date":"2015-09-16T07:00:48","date_gmt":"2015-09-16T07:00:48","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/betondinner.com\/?p=1378"},"modified":"2018-03-09T02:36:28","modified_gmt":"2018-03-09T02:36:28","slug":"how-to-feed-a-super-picky-eater","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/betondinner.com\/how-to-feed-a-super-picky-eater\/","title":{"rendered":"How to Feed a Super Picky Eater (tips for toddlers from a mom who’s been there)."},"content":{"rendered":"

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As I was writing a list of tips for feeding one-year-olds<\/a>, I found myself thinking about situations where a toddler’s pickiness and preferences become a major struggle. I asked my many-talented friend Rachel<\/a> what advice she would give to parents of a super picky eater, and I LOVE the tips and\u00a0<\/em>encouragement she shared. Here’s\u00a0her story:<\/i><\/strong><\/p>\n

I have an intense relationship with food, in that I think about it, plan for it, anticipate it, and LOVE it way more than a human being should. I associate food with family, fellowship, and fun. No celebration is complete without it, and when anyone that I love is sad, sick, or even just stressed, FOOD is my own answer to the question \u201cWhat can I do to help?\u201d So, I was completely flabbergasted when my son (my second child) came along, and hated everything that had ANYthing to do with food. <\/span><\/p>\n

My little guy exclusively breastfed for the first 13.5 months of his life. When I say exclusively, I mean at the EXCLUSION of all else. No purees, no puffs, no fruits, no veggies, no crackers\u2026.not even a bottle. Not one. He and I got reeeeeeeeally close through his first year of life. \u263a At the 13 month mark, I met with our pediatrician and requested a referral to a speech therapist (SLP) who specialized in feeding disorders for what they call a Feeding Consultation<\/strong>. The therapist was wonderfully helpful and was able to advise us and equip us with some tools (actual feeding\/drinking implements, but also some mental and emotional tools) to help my son drink and eat something besides milk from someone besides me. <\/span><\/p>\n

Since our two meetings with the SLP, things have improved, but the food battle has certainly not been won. My son turned two this week, and while he is no longer breastfeeding and has made GREAT strides in what he is willing to try and what he will actually consume, he remains a very picky eater. <\/span><\/p>\n

Bet asked me to share as the mom of a picky eater, and when I think about what I would want to say to another mom who is facing off with a finicky one-year-old, the following tidbits jump to my mind:<\/span><\/p>\n

1: Be consistent and slow down<\/b>. One of the most profound things that the SLP showed me is that in all of my efforts to make eating FUN and to make food desirable and to find that one food item that I just knew would open my boy\u2019s mind to the wonderful world of edibles, I had become a bit manic. My well-intended offerings of a vast, varying smorgasbord of food could actually overwhelm and confuse my one-year-old. \u00a0She suggested that instead of offering something different at every meal (and often, several options WITHIN one meal), we should introduce 1-2 new things at a time, and try only those things for 7 days. If he was interested, great. If not, set them aside and move on. This approach blew my mind, but working within these parameters made mealtime so much less stressful. Even if he didn\u2019t eat a bite, I wasn\u2019t frantically buzzing around the kitchen trying all my new Pinterest-gleaned ideas in one sitting, and he had repeated opportunities to acclimate and adjust to whatever it was I was introducing and expecting him to devour.<\/span><\/p>\n

The other key advice the SLP gave us was\u00a0to offer food on a spoon\/fork with the gentle question\u00a0\u201cAre you ready?\u201d<\/strong>\u00a0She told us to hold the spoon several inches from our son\u2019s mouth for a few seconds, and if he did not open his mouth and lean forward to taste it, we were to say, \u201cNot ready\u201d in a lighthearted, casual manner, and set the spoon down for a little while. We would then offer the same food on the same spoon a few minutes later, always asking \u201cAre you ready?\u201d This was a far cry from my previous approach, which involved me acting \u201chilarious\u201d to get my son to smile or laugh, and then painting a tiny bit of whatever food I was sure he would \u201clove if he just got a taste of it!\u201d on the tip of his vulnerable tongue.<\/p>\n

2:<\/strong> As clich\u00e9 as it sounds, <\/span>your kiddo\u2019s pickiness is most likely NOT due to something you did or did not do<\/b>. My firstborn was (and still is) an amazing eater. She was willing to try anything I put in front of her as early as I would let her, and her preferences actually skewed towards the healthy end of the spectrum! What 8-month-old chooses peas over pears? What two-year-old asks for edamame? \u00a0What three-year-old requests a salad for dinner? This was my daughter. With her as my “How Well Are We Teaching Our Child To Eat” rubric, we had obviously done everything right.<\/span><\/p>\n

Well, we approached feeding our son the same way we fed our daughter (I mean, it worked like a charm!), and we realized: there is no formula<\/strong>. Yes, you should offer your children healthy options at an early age. Yes, you can allow them to taste a variety of flavors and textures and spices. Yes, you can give them some ownership of what they\u2019d like to eat (within reason). However, it still may not go well. They still might only want the one or two foods that you wish you had NEVER offered (chicken nuggets and saltine crackers, anyone?). It was important for me to remember (and remember, and remember) that you cannot and should not force a child to eat, and you cannot control his preferences. You can only continue to offer the food options, in a calm, repetitive, consistent way, allowing your child to partake when he\/she is ready. <\/span><\/p>\n

3:<\/strong> Your child may very well be in a stage that will pass. Kids are nuts, and they change all the time. I think I spent a good part of our first year with our son thinking that it HAD to be a stage, and surely he would move right through it. In our case, the refusal to eat and the pickiness\/weirdness surrounding food went beyond \u201cstage\u201d status, and if you find yourself there as well,<\/strong> ACCEPT OUTSIDE HELP<\/b>. Therapy can sound serious, or scary, or super-involved, or even too expensive, but having an objective, outside party take a look at your situation and give you some constructive feedback can be a game-changer. Professional therapists also have access to some nifty little feeding tools that you never knew existed (she gave us this crazy Honey Bear instrument that taught our son to drink through a straw within a week! We had been trying for 8 months!!). We only saw the SLP twice, but I sure wish we had met with her MONTHS earlier than we did.<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

Waging these Food Wars with my little guy has been one of my most frustrating, baffling tasks as a parent, and there are no quick fixes or easy answers that we have found! I will say that there have been so many bright spots on the food-front. Tonight, we sat down as a family of five, and my son ate all of his flank steak, several bites of oven-roasted potatoes (which he had never had before), and a small portion of fruit. That is a \u201cnormal\u201d meal! With no fuss! And these types of meals are happening more and more often around here. So, take heart; there is hope for your picky eater!<\/strong> \u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

If I can be of help in any way, please feel free to email me by clicking here<\/a>.<\/span><\/p>\n

Thanks again to Rach for giving hope to all the parents in the trenches with a super picky eater. (Go check out her Etsy shop<\/a> and snag something for your little one – my personal favorite is “tiny yet mighty”!) :o)<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

As I was writing a list of tips for feeding one-year-olds, I found myself thinking about situations where a toddler’s pickiness and preferences become a major struggle. I asked my many-talented friend Rachel what advice she would give to parents of a super picky eater, and I LOVE the tips and\u00a0encouragement she shared. Here’s\u00a0her story:…<\/p>\n

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